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The Destiny
you match
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At your core,
you're meant to be a Provider. You are 70% in line with the Provider
role. This indicates that you have a genuine nurturing concern for
the welfare of others and you're eager to serve them. You can
recognize exactly what people need and your friendly, helpful,
social nature makes them feel comforted. With your kind and generous
heart, you are personable, talkative, and outward with your
emotions, and your openness and sensitivity make you concerned about
the way others view you. You have the capacity for profound care and
sympathy for others. Just be careful not to blame yourself when
things go wrong. You cannot prevent bad things from happening, even
though your tendency to be orderly with a strong sense of right and
wrong may lead you to believe you can. Your "work hard, play hard"
philosophy should do well to keep you in balance.
As a
Provider, you are in good company with Bill Clinton, Mary Tyler
Moore, and Sally Field. Just as their destinies have a deep effect
on their life paths, your destiny as a Provider undoubtedly has a
profound impact on every aspect of yours.
In your professional
life, you probably enjoy being in charge. You are skilled at
delegating responsibility and have a strong work ethic. You take
your job seriously and may have a hard time not taking your work
home with you. When there is something that needs to be done, you
are often the one who steps up to do it. Employers value this
characteristic, but they may eventually take it for granted. At
times, you may tend to take co-workers to task for small offenses
while bending over backward to keep the peace with others.
Regardless, your vigilance is appreciated and your values are
admired.
In
your personal life, you are likely considered faithful and
trustworthy to those around you. Your loving loyalty is the
foundation of your close personal relationships and will allow you
to withstand extreme hardship when it comes. You value your friends
and family greatly, and your social, entertaining nature causes
people to be drawn to you. Your sincere, warm-hearted communication
with your loved ones endears you to them. When one of them has a
birthday or some other special occasion, you make them feel loved
and accepted.
Being a Provider will manifest itself in the
many ways you view life and make decisions. For example, let's take
a look at Jenny who is also a Provider. She is someone who all
friends and family feel can be counted on for anything. She is up on
what's happening in all their lives and has been known to be a good
source for the latest scoop on anyone and everyone. She tirelessly
arranges and coordinates for the good of those around her and is
often the one who is the peacemaker between warring parties. She
raised money for the United Way for the last seven years straight,
made sure that everyone was invited to her Middle School reunion,
and served as the Master of Ceremonies.
What you and Jenny
most likely have in common is that your competence and your caring
make you a candidate for getting what you want with a great amount
of support. Bravo! |
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Based on your
answers to the Destiny Test, Tickle has custom-built a Personal
Destiny Chart to you show your relationship to both your Core and
Supporting Destiny Roles. Read on to find out your whole Personal
Destiny picture.
Adventurer
The extent to which you
are an Adventurer is 50%. Adventurers have a keen artistic eye and
are acutely aware of their sensory perception. They are kind, quiet,
and independent, expressing themselves through action.
Your
relatively high percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates
that you tend to have a strong desire for creative freedom at work.
You may feel constricted and constrained when you are not able to
explore your impulses. You will do best in an occupation where you
feel you are having a real impact on something you feel is
important.
In your relationships, you probably tend to have
strong roots planted in your home and family. You value loyalty and
stability in your family members and although you value your
freedom, deep down you appreciate knowing that you can count on
those closest to you.
Advisor
The extent to which you
are an Advisor is 42%. Advisors are people who love to help others
achieve their potential through close interpersonal connections
rather than through leading them. They are friendly, sensitive,
soft-spoken, and have an extremely acute intuition. They prize
integrity, value being a mentor to others, yet often repress their
own emotions.
Your relatively low percentage in this
supporting destiny role indicates that you tend to have a distinct
ability to attain what you want with your negotiation skills. Your
competitive drive and work ethic are your strengths. You probably
have a keen eye for opportunities that benefit your strategic goals
and are willing to do what is necessary to achieve your objective.
In your relationships, you tend to be outgoing and
gregarious. Your excitement and zest for life is exciting for others
to be around and people are naturally drawn to you. Some may find
you a bit cold at times due to your resistance to being overly
sentimental, but your wit is entertaining and the confidence you
exude is often endearing to people.
Advocate
The extent to which you
are an Advocate is 50%. Advocates believe that everything happens
for a reason, and they are eager to translate the meanings of life
for those around them. They are outspoken proponents of their point
of view and are enthusiastic, vivacious speakers who influence
others. They are very independent, constantly strive to be
authentic, and are viewed as a source of wisdom, inspiration, and
leadership.
Your relatively high percentage in this
supporting destiny role indicates that you tend to be enthusiastic,
creative, and outgoing at work. Your optimism is a great asset as
your positive approach is appealing to others and often leads to
success. You tend to be an imaginative problem-solver who brings out
the best in others. You are probably good at organizing people
toward a goal but can have a difficult time with follow-through.
In your relationships, you tend to be giving, sympathetic,
and kind. You may not be the most practical person, but you're an
exciting person to be around. You make close new friendships quickly
and are honest with others about what you are thinking and feeling.
Builder
The extent to which you
are a Builder is 57%. Builders are gifted people with high
dexterity, who learn how to use tools quickly. They use tools and
instruments of all kinds with skill and careful technique.
Your relatively high percentage in this supporting destiny
role indicates that you tend to enjoy the tasks that allow you to
roll up your sleeves and achieve a goal that you personally believe
in. You pick up skills quickly and are able to use tools well when
necessary.
In your relationships, you tend to be a quiet and
caring person. You probably value your personal space but enjoy
spending time with close friends and family in unstructured
get-togethers.
Director
The extent to which you
are a Director is 54%. Directors are usually the upper-echelon
leaders. They are adept at mobilizing people and resources in the
direction of a goal. They have a strong urge for order and
efficiency and endlessly coordinate the essential details to ensure
maximum progress while eliminating non-essential ones. They are
pragmatic, focused, and driven.
Your relatively low
percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates that you tend
to have a strong desire for creative freedom at work. You may feel
constricted and constrained when you are not able to explore your
impulses. You will do best in an occupation where you feel you are
having a real impact on something important. You work well alone and
are well liked by your co-workers.
You may tend to place
greater value on home and family than other parts of your life. You
are likely quite constant and steadfast through difficult times with
loved ones. You tend to be a great friend and playmate to those you
are close to, although you may have a tendency to put up a
protective barrier to prevent people from getting too close, and
this can hamper your relationships at times.
Explorer
The extent to which you
are an Explorer is 43%. Explorers work on ways to make systems more
efficient in achieving set goals. They are curious, open minded, and
see a problem as an opportunity to create new tools and techniques
to solve it. They are entrepreneurial, non-conformist, flexible, and
outgoing. They are easygoing, but tend to engage others in verbal
sparring for the purposes of mental stimulation and can therefore
sometimes appear abrasive or contrary.
Your relatively high
percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates that you tend
inspire others with your curiosity and thirst for knowledge in your
work. You are willing to do things in unconventional ways, which
inevitably leads to the discovery of new and better ways to solve
problems. You probably need that newness and excitement to keep you
interested in your work, so you may want to avoid jobs that leave no
opportunity for creativity.
In your relationships, you tend
to be warm and affectionate. You tend to be a gregarious, outgoing,
and entertaining person, and your zest for life is contagious. Your
rather impulsive nature and quest for adventure may cause your
family anxiety, but it's because of the risks you take. You may find
that you like lively conversations that match your wits against
another's. This has the potential to cause bad feelings unless you
try to be aware.
Facilitator
The extent to which you
are a Facilitator is 54%. Facilitators are dependable people who
have a keen sense of right and wrong and scrutinize systems and
procedures to ensure accurate and efficient results. They value
consistency, truth, and tradition.
Your relatively high
percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates that your
devotion to duty makes you a strong asset to your co-workers. You
follow the rules and uphold the law, making others feel comfortable
putting their trust in you. Your punctuality is valued, attention to
detail relied upon, and your measured approach is appreciated. You
do your best work in a step-by-step approach and can be counted on
to complete tasks.
In your relationships, you tend to be
steadfast, reliable, and faithful. You are probably a source of
strength for those you love, and they know that you can be relied
upon to keep your commitments.
Influencer
The extent to which you
are an Influencer is 64%. Influencers are persuasive, enterprising,
and driven. They are charismatic, outgoing, and have a zest for
life.
Your relatively high percentage in this supporting
destiny role indicates that you tend to be a dynamic, influential
leader at work. Your power of persuasion will allow you to set and
achieve goals effectively.
In your relationships, you tend
to be entertaining, positive, and confident. Your zeal for living is
endearing, and people find you exciting to be around.
Inventor
The extent to which you
are an Inventor is 30%. Inventors are preoccupied with system design
and spatial relationships, both concrete and abstract. They design
systematic structures and engineer structural models and long for
knowledge about the structure of the world around them. They are
driven and are able to concentrate well, blocking out irrelevant
information.
Your relatively high percentage in this
supporting destiny role indicates that in your career you tend to be
a thoughtful, positive, and intelligent worker. Your logical
abilities are strong, and your work ethic is unwavering. You tend to
be precise and technical in the way you create and look at the world
in terms of what can be used in your creations. You do your best
work when you have freedom to explore new ideas rather than
performing familiar tasks repeatedly.
In your relationships,
you tend to be faithful, devoted, and at times withdrawn. You are
probably not the most social person you know, and may not throw many
parties in your home, but others appreciate your kind, quiet, honest
approach. You often prefer an analytical approach to interpersonal
relations and that may tend to hinder your emotional connections
with those you love.
Leader
The extent to which you
are a Leader is 56%. Leaders possess strong planning skills, are
particularly adept at recognizing possible problems, and can deftly
create contingency plans to manage the situation. They are reserved,
decisive, have a strong will, and are uncomfortable when things are
unsettled. They are creative problem solvers who value useful ideas
that work efficiently toward well-defined goals.
Your
relatively high percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates
that you tend to be a careful tactician who is able to mastermind
large projects at work. Your ability to see the "big picture" and
the ways to handle potential problems makes you a valuable asset to
any organization. You tend to be a quiet but effective leader. You
are probably judicious in your scheduling and are fairly unemotional
about what is needed to do a job right.
In your
relationships, you tend to be caring and loving, if a bit removed.
You tend to be willing to put forth great effort but may also tend
to repress some of your emotions. This may make personal
relationships tough for you to keep at times. Your tendency toward
perfectionism can be a recipe for disappointment when dealing with
matters of the heart, as questions of human nature rarely have black
and white answers.
Manager
The extent to which you
are a Manager is 64%. Managers are sticklers for order and
procedure. They are moralistic people who enjoy structure and an
adherence to established rules.
Your relatively high
percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates that you tend
to be a sturdy and dependable contributor to any organization. You
are often one who will ensure that the rules and procedures are
maintained for the greater good. You can be counted on to uphold
standard and tradition and to ensure that people are focused on the
job at hand. You would probably excel in a position that requires an
unbiased judge to maintain order and efficiency.
In your
relationships, you tend to be steadfast, loyal, and faithful. Your
loved ones can usually count on you to send cards or gifts in a
timely manner. You probably have great respect for your elders and
make an effort to keep their traditions alive. With children, you
may tend to be firm, stressing the importance of manners, hard work,
and duty.
Peacemaker
The extent to which you
are a Peacemaker is 40%. Peacemakers are compelled to make peace on
an interpersonal level, as well as a global one. They sacrifice
themselves for the cause they believe in, and although their outward
appearance seems serene, they have an intense passion to achieve
their ideals and that often causes inner turmoil and social
isolation. They long for unity and "oneness," believe in morality,
and compromise for the sake of peace, as long as it doesn't conflict
with their ideals.
Your relatively low percentage in this
supporting destiny role indicates that you tend to be a steady and
dependable contributor to any organization or work. You are often
the one who will ensure that the rules and procedures are maintained
and are often the type of person to whom upper management would want
to delegate responsibility. You can be counted on to uphold standard
and tradition and to ensure that people are focused on the job at
hand.
In your relationships, you tend to be steadfast,
loyal, and faithful. There are not likely to be a lot of surprises
as your loved ones know that they can count on you to be a source of
support and thoughtfulness.
Performer
The extent to which you
are a Performer is 44%. Performers are outgoing and gregarious
people who entertain others. They are charming, uninhibited, and
often comical.
Your relatively low percentage in this
supporting destiny role indicates that you tend to be a quiet
planner at work. You are a strong-willed, logical thinker who is
well organized.
In your relationships, you tend to be
giving, loving, and thoughtful. You probably enjoy being with a
small group of close friends and value the simple things in life.
Protector
The extent to which you
are a Protector is 57%. Protectors have a great concern for the
welfare of others and generally want to insulate them from peril and
hardship. They are comforting and helpful. They have a strong work
ethic, are frugal, thorough, and reserved.
Your relatively
high percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates that you
tend to feel most comfortable being in a position where your natural
inclination to serve and protect others is utilized at work. You
have an exceptional capacity to care for those in need, and you will
feel the most fulfilled when you are making a difference in the
lives of people.
In your relationships, you tend to be
fiercely loyal and devoted. You often put your friends and family
ahead of your work, which doesn't go unnoticed. You may tend to
avoid conflict when possible and can even tend to hide your personal
pain or hardship because you feel it will burden others. This can
cause people to feel shut out from you. Those closest to you are
comforted by your selfless and dependable nature.
Provider
The extent to which you
are a Provider is 70%. Providers are giving people, eager to serve
the needs of others. They are nurturing, sensitive, personable,
talkative, outward with their emotions, and are concerned about how
others view them. They are also orderly, moralistic, reactionary,
obedient, and can tend to make value judgments about others.
Your relatively high percentage in this supporting destiny
role indicates that you tend to enjoy being in charge at work. You
are skilled at delegating responsibility and have a strong work
ethic. You take your job seriously and may have a hard time not
taking your work home with you.
In your relationships, you
tend to be kind and selfless. Your loving loyalty is the foundation
for your close personal relationships and will allow you to
withstand any extreme hardships. You value your friends and family
greatly, and your social, entertaining nature causes people to be
drawn to you.
Teacher
The extent to which you
are a Teacher is 43%. Teachers influence others, assess, and
maximize the talent of those around them. They are outgoing,
charismatic, reliable, and expect the best from people. This
supportive nature typically inspires people to meet their goals.
They are idealistic in the way they view their relationships to the
point of being a bit unrealistic.
Your relatively low
percentage in this supporting destiny role indicates that you tend
toward a strong desire for autonomy and independence at work. You
are probably a tough-minded person who likes to keep their options
open. You prefer a hands-on approach rather that an abstract
philosophical one. You produce work of high quality and are trusted
by your co-workers.
In your relationships, you tend to need
flexibility and spontaneity. Your logical approach in matters of the
heart can save on excessive drama but can also keep you from feeling
emotions deeply.
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A step-by-step plan for pursuing
your unique Personal Destiny
So now that you've read
about your unique Personal Destiny picture, are you ready to
embrace it? Doing so could mean a more joyful and fulfilled
life!
With some careful thought and a little effort,
you can use the information from your Personal Destiny picture
to direct your life in positive ways. What you are most
destined to do, i.e.: what will make you happiest, will happen
if you understand and embrace your Personal Destiny picture.
To achieve your unique Personal Destiny, follow the
steps below:
- Commit a small block of time to this process. It has
been said that "an unexamined life is not worth living." So
whether it is 10 minutes or a couple hours, this time may be
the most well-spent in your day, week, or life!
- Find a quiet place free from distractions, a place where
you will not be interrupted. This simple act of setting
aside a time and place for personal reflection and
decision-making is a powerful symbol of your willingness to
shape your future in a positive way.
- Take time to think and meditate on your Personal Destiny
in an accepting and constructive way. Focus first on your
Core Destiny and what that says about the kind of person you
are (reflect on your strengths as well as your weaknesses).
Consider also the Supporting Destinies and what your
percentages tell you, but don't judge yourself. Make a list
of the aspects of your core destiny that you feel aptly
describes who you are. Consider adding those aspects of your
supporting destinies that also ring true for you.
- Consider what you are drawn to do, what times in your
life you have been the happiest, and what you would like to
achieve. Make sure to write all of this down.
- Consider what's important to you. Finish open-ended
phrases like, "If I could spend a year learning about
anything, it would be..." and "The way I could really make
an impact would be to..." and "I would feel great at the end
of the day if I..." and "It would be a blast to..." and "I
would be really good at..."
- Write down your thoughts without judgment. Remember that
there is no shame in an interest or an idea.
- Consider next those people you feel have lived out their
destinies. Think about how they were able to achieve that
goal, especially the small steps they must have taken to get
there. Write down 3 examples of people who have done what
you want to do. Are there any strategies that they employed
that you feel you could emulate? Write down those
strategies.
- Decide what would make your own destiny more fully
realized. Whether it is a long-term goal or a change in how
you behave, write it down. You can have more than one!
- Write down a list of the small, concrete steps that are
necessary to achieve that goal.
- Come up with a reasonable time period that each step
should take, and write down the timeline of your goal
achievement. When you are tempted to think that the goal
would take "too long," consider how quickly the last six
months have gone or the last five years. Remember that in
small steps, great distances can be covered.
- Put the daily steps down on a calendar that you will see
every day.
- Before you go to bed, schedule the time when you will
take the step the next day.
- Celebrate benchmarks of your journey (the halfway,
quarter-way, or even the ten percent mark). This symbolizes
the fact that the accomplishment is ongoing and not simply
an outcome.
- Think about the rewards of your efforts and how you
might build on them to bring you even closer to your
destiny. Then, begin again at step one.
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As you now very well
know, your Personal Destiny is composed of many different
personality forces that operate in differing degrees and create the
totally unique person that you are. You've also learned that by
understanding your tendencies, you can come to terms with your
personal strengths and weaknesses. It's only when you accept and
build on the kind of person you really are that you can maximize
your talent and feel fulfilled. You would, in fact, be surprised to
learn how many people do not accept who they really are and how
often that means they are troubled or worse, depressed.
For
example, imagine that you are 17 and you naturally gravitate toward
artistic expression; you love drawing landscapes or working through
melodies on your guitar. You have hopes one day of becoming well
known and loved for your art because you want the world to know who
you are — you have feelings and perspectives you think are important
to share. Now, let's say your parents have something else in mind
for you. They have pushed you since childhood to study science and
they tell friends and family that you are going to make them proud
by becoming a doctor. They see that sort of profession as one of
real success, and you want to impress them, but the books you have
to read bore you and you can't help but doodle in the margins. As a
result of your lack of interest, you do poorly in your science
classes, and while you hate them anyway, you feel bad because you
know your parents are going to be angry. As punishment, they don't
pay for your guitar and drawing lessons, and eventually you stop
coming up with cool melodies or staring at sunsets. You get a tutor
and you try to do better in science, but you feel like crying a lot
of the time.
Just imagine what this situation is doing to
your obvious true personal destiny to become an artist. Your ability
to freely express yourself, have an impact on others, forge new
relationships, and share your thoughts and feelings is completely
hampered, and this will undoubtedly make you feel depressed. While
it isn't your parents' intention to make you unhappy, the fact that
they are unwittingly pushing you in a direction that you are not
supposed to go could potentially ruin your life.
We know
this because of an interesting piece of psychological research that
helped us see more deeply the consequences of not following your
destiny. Researchers discovered something unexpected about the way
the mind works while studying Classical Conditioning, the concept
behind it being that when a dog hears a bell right before receiving
food, it will salivate upon hearing the bell ring in the future
because it has learned to associate the sound of the bell with
receiving food.
To understand how this situation related to
a negative experience, researchers restrained the dog in a hammock
and then paired the bell sound with a harmless shock from the floor.
They then removed the hammock and put the dog in an area with a low
fence that it could easily jump over. They expected that when the
dog heard the bell, it would jump over the fence to escape the
shock. What they found was that the dog had actually learned that
resistance was futile, and while it knew the shock was coming, it
did nothing to escape. The unrestrained dogs, however, did not learn
the futility and easily chose to jump over the fence.
This
phenomenon is called Learned Helplessness and directly relates to
Personal Destiny. Think of the hammock as the thing restraining you
from being yourself and pursuing your own unique personal destiny.
As the artist, your "hammock" is partly your parents, but it's
partly you — you are not in control of your life. You are frustrated
and living a lie every time you pick up a science book. Your
frustration turns into depression because you're not living up to
who your parents want you to be, nor are you living up to who you
want to and should be. But imagine if you took control of your life?
Imagine if you tried to unlearn the "hammock"? What if you showed
your parents the beautiful sunsets you'd captured over the years on
canvas? What if you played them the songs you'd written for the
guitar? What if you told them that you were absolutely miserable and
felt like there was nothing to hope for? What if you could find the
words to articulate your pain and make your parents understand? Then
you would no longer be helpless and could pursue your destiny to be
an artist, making yourself and everyone around you happier for
having understood your Personal Destiny.
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Tickle's Destiny
Test was developed to gain clarity around the most suitable life
paths for each of 16 Jungian-based personality dimensions measured.
Each individual will possess a unique blend of each, in varying
intensities, with one primary destiny or core and 15 supporting life
paths or purposes. In addition, Attribution Theory and Learned
Helplessness were applied in order to understand the negative
implications of resisting your true and natural personality.
Understanding the nature of personality types helped define in what
ways individuals could act to be more in harmony with their
personalities and thus more in harmony with their natural selves and
thus more aligned with their unique life path.
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